Soon after I arrived in the Philippines I was comparing notes with another newly arrived European at the UN agency where I worked. We agreed that our local colleagues’ encyclopedic knowledge of the names and details of the rest of the workforce was something we had not encountered elsewhere. Colleagues we had never met seemed to know who we were and which departments we worked in. The databanks that the Filipino staff carried around in their heads were particularly impressive because, not only was the office itself quite large (over 350 employees), it was complemented by a large floating population of consultants who came and went. None of this seemed to faze the sponge-like memory of our Filipino colleagues, who had no apparent difficulty in recalling the name of a visiting consultant whose only previous visit to Manila had been four years previously.
Over the years, I have become a rather desensitized to this remarkable facility and have come to take it for granted, but every once I am reminded of it. For example, we have a coffee stand at my current place of work and girls who work it not only have to remember the names of hundreds of customers but their favourite tipples too. Yet they manage this with no difficulty at all, despite the fact that the names of my Central European colleagues must be totally alien to them.
These days I have decided to spare the rest of you my rather erratic road skills and have employed a driver, who is another walking hard disk. Not only is his knowledge of Manila’s complex road layout note perfect, he can remember our lives better than frayed and I can, pointing out restaurants where we dined three years ago in a long forgotten dinner.
There seem to me to be at least three explanations of Filipinos’ elephantine memories.
First, you remember what is important to you and one of the truisms about Filipinos is that they are very people-oriented.
Second, all the examples I have quoted were all of people remembering details of people higher up the social scale than themselves. Given the quasi-feudal nature of much of Philippine society, perhaps it is not surprising to find Filipinos making it their business to store up information about their “betters”.
Third, perhaps it has something to do with the size of families here? If six siblings each have six kids themselves, each one of those will have 35 first cousins. That’s not a bad start to the databank. (By contrast, my family is incredibly small, even by European standards, and I don’t have a single first cousin.)
Still, those features (people-orientation, quasi-feudalism, and large families) are characteristic of many societies in the developing world and I’ve not met quite such an almost scary level of recall in other countries. So let’s hear it for the Philippine memory—one of the best in the world!
Hah, I guess I can't claim credit for that, my people-memory is very very bad.
Posted by: Jon Limjap | July 29, 2007 at 07:34 AM
Good memory is only possible if one pays attention so i guess our tendency to stare helps in this area.
Posted by: cvj | July 29, 2007 at 08:50 AM
Would we be able to link our detail oriented memories as cause for our short term memories when it comes to more important issues? In other words, allowing one family to regain relative glory and power once again after kicking them out in a public fashion? Are we like austistic kids who can memorize the phonebook at a glance but can't deal with social interaction properly?
Posted by: Mila | July 29, 2007 at 05:59 PM
I think that's a good point, Mila. At the risk of sounding overly critical (of us Pinoys) I think we do tend to remember a lot of irrelevant details (selective memory) and leave out many much more important ones. So I guess that speaks more about our priorities and what we find relevant?
Posted by: frayed | July 29, 2007 at 07:18 PM
Jon — it’s true, there are always exceptions, but I am sure your memory is good in other ways.
Cvj — ha, ha, yes — perhaps Pinoys stare at foreigners to see whether they are wearing an ID card to memorize?
Mila and frayed — I might have guessed that Pinoys would beat themselves up even when I wrote something flattering!
There is something in what you say — there is a lack of a collective historical memory for sure. That’s not necessarily bad — for example, despite the atrocities of the Japanese during the second world war, there is little animosity toward modern Japanese (as there is in China, for example). Some people might say that is a bad thing, but I see little to be gained in attacking inhabitants of modern Japan for the sins of their parents.
I think it is fair to say, as you do, that the Filipino concern is with his or her immediate environment -- but can we be sure that this is "less important"?
Posted by: torn | July 29, 2007 at 09:26 PM
Well, that's one positive pinoy trait that I seem to have missed out on...
I'm shocking when it comes to remembering people's names. I HATE, repeat HATE having to introduce people at gatherings cos I always, inadvertently get it wrong!
~sigh~ you post a 'flattering' aspect of pinoys and I can't even feel smug about it!
Does remembering ex-lovers' foibles in minute detail count?
Posted by: Nunu's mum | July 30, 2007 at 02:38 AM
haha. people-oriented. is that why I am in advertising? had to comment about having to remember the names and birthdays of 35 first cousins - or ratherm, 70 if you count both sides: mum+dad.
Posted by: rina | July 30, 2007 at 03:52 AM
I supplement your 'quasi-feudal' explanation: undeveloped systems in almost every area of public life (government, employment, etc.) make it necessary for us to remember individuals because we need personal ties to prosper. Confronted with impenetrable bureaucracy, the best way to get something done is to know someone--or everyone. In the West (except maybe Italy, haha), public transactions are so established as to be impersonal. This is not entirely positive, as Weberian friends keep pointing out to me. Maybe not, though I see some value in efficiency sometimes.
On a positive note, I agree that we as a people are interested in people. Prime example among relatives: my mom, who knows everyone in our neighborhood, including how much everyone earns. It takes her about one hour to negotiate the 150-meter street because she calls on every other house. Then she matches everyone up: A needs a plumber, B's cousin is a plumber. C wants a wife, D's aunt is a young widow. Then she'll tell D how much C earns. It's not gossiping, it's networking.
Posted by: Carla | July 31, 2007 at 01:20 PM
We've had a maid for eight months and I still don't know her name.
I think it's uy. "Uy, pakiplancha naman ang polo ko".
Posted by: borgy | August 01, 2007 at 06:41 AM
Some selective memory are programmed. The chinese hatred for japanese for instance is a by-product of chinese curriculum where they teach to every students every year of grade school and high school that japs fucked them up.
I'm sure if DECS mandated that in philippine schools we would start hating japanese too.
Posted by: borgy | August 01, 2007 at 06:44 AM